Would it be okay if none of us actually wanted to take over the family business?

Yes, and the family is usually better off when someone finally says it out loud. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, has Tim Mitchell ask the question his older siblings were afraid to. Would it be bad if none of us wanted it. The room tenses immediately. The honest answer is that not wanting the business is a legitimate position, often a healthier one than dragging a reluctant heir into a role that doesn't fit. The challenge is that the wealth, the legacy, and the founder's identity feel tied to having an heir take over. Those are real considerations. They shouldn't override the actual fit of the people involved. Many families ultimately sell, professionalize the management, or find a non-family operator. The conversation requires someone to ask the question first.