Why does my dad come in and shit all over every plan we make at the business?

Kris Kluver calls this the Seagull Leader. The founder has technically stepped back but can't actually let go. They fly in unannounced, hover over decisions, make a lot of noise, sometimes crap all over progress that was already happening, and fly away. The team is left cleaning up the disruption. The founder genuinely believes they helped. The pattern is one of the most common in UHNW family businesses post-handoff. Kris Kluver describes a Pacific Northwest family where the daughter ran the company beautifully, with revenue up and culture improving, and her father kept showing up to make suggestions that contradicted everything she'd built. The behavior wasn't malicious. He was lonely, and the company had been his identity for forty years. Naming the Seagull pattern out loud is usually the first step toward changing it.