Why do we keep guessing what each other wants instead of just asking?

Kris Kluver calls this We're All Crappy Psychics. Kids guess at the founder's wishes. The founder guesses at the kids' wishes. Everyone misses. The pattern compounds over decades because nobody wants to be the one to say the awkward thing out loud. So the family operates on a fog of assumptions, each person reacting to what they imagine the others want, none of it tested against actual conversation. The fix is structural, not emotional. Stop guessing. Start asking. Use a Letter of Wishes or a facilitated conversation to surface what each person actually wants the wealth and the relationships to do. The guessing isn't a flaw of any one person. It's a pattern the whole family maintains together.