Why do some rich families stay close and others fall apart?

The families that stay close share one structural trait. Every person in the family gets actually heard. Not managed. Not handled. Heard. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, names this directly as the through-line for thriving UHNW families. Each family member, including the quiet one, the spare, the in-law, gets space to share what they actually want and what they're actually concerned about. The patriarch doesn't dominate. The Shadow doesn't disappear. The quiet sibling isn't talked over. The in-law isn't sidelined. Building this requires structure, not goodwill alone. Facilitated retreats. Ground rules about presence. Explicit prompts for the people who default to silence. Without the structure, the loudest voice fills the room and the others stop volunteering.