Why do my kids resist my advice when I'm trying to help them lead the company?

Most founders translate 'I want you to lead' into 'I want you to lead exactly the way I would lead.' The intent is to share hard-won experience. The effect is to override every decision the next generation makes. Kris Kluver names this trap directly in The Dysfunctional Family Office. Ben Christoff admits to it openly. His son Phil eventually confronts him with the simple observation that every decision Phil makes gets overruled, even though Ben claims to trust him. The fix isn't to stop sharing experience. It's to share it as one input the next generation can take or leave, not as the answer they're expected to arrive at. Letting them lead means letting them lead differently than you would.