Where in my life am I carrying leadership weight without anywhere safe to put it down?

If you can't immediately answer that question, you've identified the problem. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, asks leaders this exactly because the inability to answer is the diagnostic. The weight of running a family business is real. The team can't absorb it. The family can't fully absorb it. The spouse shouldn't be expected to absorb all of it. Without somewhere safe to put it down, the weight doesn't disappear. It accumulates. It shows up as sleep loss, snapping at people you love, low-grade dread on Sunday nights, doom loops at six in the morning. Most leaders don't realize they're missing this until something gives. The fix is to build the safe place deliberately. A coach. A Peer Circle. A specific friend who has been through similar leadership challenges and has the bandwidth to listen. Without it, the weight will eventually hurt you and the people around you.