What truths in my family have never been said out loud yet still shape everything?

Most UHNW families have at least three. The truth about why the founder really built the company. The truth about which kid was actually favored or overlooked. The truth about how much the working years cost the marriage. None of it gets said. All of it shapes every family interaction. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, asks readers to identify the unspoken truths that drive their family's behavior. Most people, asked plainly, can name them within seconds. The avoidance is the problem, not the truths themselves. Once named, the truths usually carry less weight than they did when they were silent. The fear is always larger than the actual conversation. Families that surface these truths in a structured setting almost always come out closer than they went in. Families that don't keep paying the silent tax for decades.