What story am I telling myself in my head that's driving how I behave with my family?

Whatever it is, it's almost certainly distorting your behavior in ways you don't see in real time. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, asks rising generation members to test this directly. The internal narrative shapes everything. If the story is my dad doesn't see me, you walk into the family meeting already braced for not being seen. You read every neutral comment as confirmation. You behave defensively before anyone has done anything. The narrative becomes self-fulfilling. The fix isn't to change your feelings. It's to notice the story, name it as a story rather than a fact, and test it against the actual evidence. Most internal narratives in families are partly true and partly inherited. Sorting which is which lets you choose your response instead of just reacting.