How do I stop reacting personally when my dad disrupts our family business meetings?

Recognize the pattern as a pattern, not a personal attack. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, gives this advice directly to rising generation members watching a parent slip into Seagull or other archetypal behavior. When you understand the pattern, the behavior stops being about you. It's about the founder's core motivations, fears, and identity gaps. Once you see that, you can respond to what's actually happening instead of reacting to what it feels like. The reframe is hard the first few times because the behavior still hurts. With practice, you can absorb the disruption without taking the bait. You can name the pattern privately, redirect the conversation, and protect the team from the chaos without firing back. The skill is learnable. Most rising generation leaders develop it within the first year of taking over.