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Does money fix family problems or magnify them?

From: Ch 11: What Does Amazing Look Like?

Magnify them. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, has Eileen, one of the in-laws at a family retreat, name it in three words. Money amplifies everything. Good or bad. Family love gets amplified. Family dysfunction gets amplified just as much. Petty resentments become legal disputes. Communication gaps become estate fights. Quiet favoritism becomes inheritance trauma that lasts for decades. Most UHNW families are surprised by this pattern because they expected the wealth to smooth things over. It rarely does. Wealth gives the family more options, more advisors, more leverage in every direction, including the destructive ones. The fix isn't to be afraid of the wealth. It's to do the relational work early enough that the amplification works in the family's favor, not against it.

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