Am I chasing my own definition of success or someone else's?

Probably someone else's, at least partly. Kris Kluver, in The Dysfunctional Family Office, has Gail Mitchell name this directly. Sometimes success gets defined by the loudest voices around you. Social media. Family expectations. Industry peers. You wake up one day and realize you're chasing someone else's dreams. The pattern is universal in UHNW families where the founder set a definition of success decades ago and the kids absorbed it without ever explicitly choosing it. The fix is to define what amazing actually looks like for you, in writing, separate from anyone else's version. Most rising generation members do this for the first time at thirty or forty. Most founders never do it at all. The exercise feels indulgent and is actually load-bearing. Without your own definition, you're optimizing for someone else's scoreboard and wondering why winning doesn't feel like anything.